Note: This is a real dream and waking life situation however, the names and identifying characteristics have been changed to protect the identity of everyone involved.
Little Andre lay in his bed with his mother attentively watching over him. He looked particularly small for 10 years of age given he had been sick now for what felt like an eternity. In actual fact he had been ill for a week with no answers from doctors as to why he was so desperately unwell. Since coming home from school one day he went to bed with complaints of feeling ill. Within a day he could no longer speak, he was no longer conscious, and his little body simply kept breathing short, shallow breaths.
Andre’s mother had been informed that morning by the doctor that a spinal tap would be necessary. They didn’t know what to do otherwise, as all tests had come up negative. The desperate attempt now was to see if the cerebral spinal fluid was infected and rendering him comatose. The words had hit her like a blow to the head. Andre was her entire life and for that reason she had fought so hard for him to live in a world she carefully controlled. A world she felt was best for him. In reality, Andre was all she had.
Having not slept for days she finally collapsed into a chair beside the little boy’s bed and fell into a deep, life-saving sleep. During her sleep she had a dream image of Andre looking at her with a stern face. He held a bat in his hand and was slowly kicking a soccer ball against what appeared to be a brick wall.
“What are you doing Andre?” She asked. “I’m faking”, he responded by spitting the words out to her. She woke up with a start from her sleep and suddenly felt disoriented as she quickly hoisted herself out of the chair. She stood over her young son’s bed and watched him breath. He was so frail in his pyjamas for not having eaten in so long. He looked pale, with dark circles under his eyes.
Slowly she bent over him and whispered, “You better not be faking Andre”. For the first time in days he slowly began to move. He wiggled his little body slightly and grimaced in an attempt to speak. Gradually he replied in a weak whisper, “I am, and I’m going to keep doing it too.” With both elation and fear she stood bolt upright and ran for a nurse.
Andre began speaking to the nurse while disclosing the bitter divorce between his father and mother made him so sad he didn’t want to live another day. His mother had pushed his father out of his life and this made life unbearable for the young boy. Shortly thereafter, the diagnosis of a psychiatric disorder was given and Andre was moved to the psychiatric ward for treatment.
It’s here we see a special class of dreams that provide information for situations that require immediate and direct attention. These dreams provide answers, direction and solutions to waking day situations that need to be attended to as dire consequences are eminent. This category of dream imagery allows for the perception of a life event to change or to come into conscious awareness so waking day problems can be solved. The dream is often short, shocking, and memorable.
The imagery in these dreams is often exaggerated to get the attention of the dreamer. Most often the outcomes are not nearly as outrageous as they are in the dream itself but the dreamer becomes incredibly aware of the circumstances at hand. Characters will appear larger than life and situations far more dramatic or horrific than what they would be in waking day. It’s with these tactics that dreams grab the attention of the dreamer so direct action can be taken. Of course the dreams can be ignored but the unconscious mind is doing its part to break through to the conscious mind for the benefit of the dreamer, and, everyone involved. These dreams are of an extraordinary nature with very direct information being conveyed for the betterment of the self while allowing the healing process for deep, unconscious wounds. Unknowingly, we are actually answer-seeking from the unconscious mind to help us navigate through difficult life circumstances.
Dr. Teresa L. DeCicco is the author of numerous scientific articles and the books “Living Beyond the Five Senses: The Emergence of a Spiritual Being”, “The Giant Compass: Navigating The Life of Your Dreams” and “La Bussola dei Sogni”. See more of her work at www.teresadecicco.com